A lot of PAL moms have said that they found it helpful to have a positive affirmation, or mantra to repeat to themselves while trying to conceive and another one while they are pregnant. Today I am going to make my TTC mantra.
To start, what is a mantra? Originally from Hinduism or Buddhism it is defined as “a word or sound to aid in the concentration to meditation.” I think we need to take a quick look at the word meditation as well–I know when I see the word I think of people sitting cross-legged on the floor humming “Ooooohhmmmm”.
Meditation (for our use) is defined as a practice where a person focuses their mind on a particular thought to become mentally clear and emotionally calmer. To put all this together; a mantra is a PAL mom using a phrase that they came up with to help keep their minds clear of negative thoughts, and help with the inevitable emotional roller coaster that comes with TTC. Sounds like a pretty good idea–especially for my anxious personality!
I did some research on basic mantra’s and found that most seem to start with an I statement such as “I deserve”, “I possess” or “I feel”. Now, every PAL mom has to have a mantra that works for her, and I’m not a big I statement person. Doing some deeper digging, I found mantra’s that were created differently.
The mantra’s I saw all had the same basic principle to them. Positive, personal, and in the present. Let’s break it down. I don’t think I need to explain why a mantra should be positive so lets move to personal. I think that the personal part of a mantra is generally why the common ones use I statements. You want to create a phrase that focuses on you–the pregnant mom. Examples of keeping it personal include “I”, “me”, “my”, “you” and any variation of those words.
This is not to say that it is wrong to create a mantra for you and your baby’s other parental figure. Everyone is different and a PAL mom needs to find what works for her.
Let’s address in the present. The importance of keeping the mantra in the present is to focus on the here and now, not the past pregnancy. I would encourage staying away from adding phrases like “This will not be like my last pregnancy” to your mantra as I think while it is positive, it has the ability to pull you right back into the past by referencing the negative ending of your previous pregnancy. Use words like “today”, and “now” .
So TTC PAL moms, put one together! Here is my TTC mantra.
“Today my mind will focus on hope over fear”